Earlier this week the topic of open marriage came across my brain. I tried to avoid going on a tangent about the subject by simply asking my Twitter Fam how they felt about it. For the most part, my tweeps have the same view-point I do, it’s just another excuse to have your cake and eat it too. But, at least you’ve asked for permission to eat the cake, right?
In the case of Mr. and Mrs. Carl and Kenya Stevens, they seem to have brainwashed mastered the art of maintaining a loving and fulfilling ‘open marriage.’
Take a moment to view their ABC interview while I grab my bible real quick and pray for their marital blissed souls.
Carl and Kenya Steven share their open relationship views
So now that you’ve listened to all of the Jujumama that the Stevens as well as other couples shared throughout this interview, what do you think? I’ll Wait!
*makes a fresh cappuccino*
You know, what saddens me the most about this whole concept is that sacred vows that are taken during a marriage have just been thrown out of the window. I know God creates all people and expects them to be loving and giving creatures big and small. But, I really don’t think He meant that everyone needed to share their marital love with everyone they come in contact with at the same time. What is the point of getting married if you’re just going to date and fall in love with other people. I believe Kenya and Carl both admitted to only having ONE boyfriend and girlfriend at the time of the interview. Well, now that’s commendable of them!
And if you are wondering where you have seen this couple who are gloating as happily married relationship experts, they were featured in the Monique Show video I shared on my Do We know our Roles in a Marriage posting. No wonder they are glowing ear to ear and have been married for over 14 years.
I’m not trying to judge and I’m not here to define the perfect marriage. But, there are truly some things that don’t need the 21st century spin added to it. Can’t we keep some things sacred?
It’s a rare moment when I’m speechless, but I think I’m officially at that point.
*cues Bebe and Cece Winans’ Lord Lift us up Where We Belong!*
Let me know your thoughts or provide your feedback via the poll.
I didn’t vote. My answer is no, but I don’t think it’s an excuse to ‘shaboink’ in the example above. I think an open marriage takes away from the ups and downs of a traditional marriage. The ups and downs that we work through.
I think the only way I could fall in love with another man is if something wrong has gone unchecked in my marriage. The article states that they discuss everything, but what about the unchecked issue that caused them to seek emotional comfort outside the marriage?
I’m only 2 years in but I believe a marriage is a journey of falling in and out of love with my husband. With each issue we conquer, we fall deeper and our foundation of love gets stronger. Perhaps I’m in fairy tale land…
You’re far from fairy tale land! That’s how I view mine and I’m 17 plus years in! Thanks for dropping a comment on this!