“For My Mom on Father’s Day…” Really?
As we head into another Father’s Day Weekend, I felt a need to address an issue that has been weighing heavily on my mind each year since I’ve started my Blog Site. I’m sure the photo above gives you an indication of my topic, but to make sure I’m clear, I’ll start with a few questions.
Why do Happy Father’s Day Greetings Come With Special Conditions?
Why do Americans seem to try and capitalize on the negative aspects of society instead of glorifying the positive?
Why are we hell-bent on bashing deadbeat dads publicly while ignoring deadbeat moms like they’re taboo?
I know, I know, a lot of questions! But honestly speaking, this whole public ‘my baby daddy aint sh*t spiel’ is getting out of hand on Father’s Day! I think where my frustration lies the most is that we will bash a deadbeat dad so fast on Father’s Day but ignore the deadbeat mom on Mother’s Day like they deserve a free pass. I’m sure society would love for us to think that only
black men are out here neglecting their children. And from a statistical perspective, the deadbeat daddy ratio is probably higher than the deadbeat mommy ratio. But thinking through my friends and family list, I honestly think it may be a 50/50 split.
I really need people to take a step back and think about why we go into celebrating these types of holidays. If you’re a parent that is taking care of your child the best you know how, then you should be recognized every day. But being that Hallmark has to stay in business with commercialized holidays, a nice card or gift for the parent who sacrifices it all for their child is nice on Mother’s and Father’s Day!
Ladies and gentlemen, please stop feeding into the negative cesspool of how men don’t take care of their kids and blasting deadbeat dads on Father’s Day. It does not help your situation and probably only makes it worse. And for those of you who take to a social network and share your grief, please step away from the keyboard immediately! By doing that, you’re making yourself look scorned and bitter and are an embarrassment to your child. Besides, if you are looking for a father figure for your child and a mate for yourself, you have pretty much ruined your chances!
I challenge everyone to take the high road this year and just wish a great father you know as well as your own father a Happy Father’s Day without any conditions. And if you don’t have your father in your life or your child’s father is absent, just go about your business just like you do normally any other day. I promise you your spirit will feel a lot better and you may even find yourself smiling and enjoying a great Sunday with the only blessing(s) that matter every day of the week, your child(ren)!
I’m all about supporting changes that are positive to children and addressing those who become roadblocks in turning a negative situation into a positive one. However, we really need to level the playing field when we start placing blame on people. I’m sure you can find at least one deadbeat mom to bash while you are publicly bashing a deadbeat dad! I’d bet my lunch money on it.